Safe Dating Tips using Cupidonia.com
Protect your identity
Never tell your last name, address, phone number, where you work, email address or any other personal information until you are ready to reveal your identity.
Some people are very resourceful and could discover your true identity if you say too much. Always be careful.
Don't let yourself be rushed! There are no set standards that tell when you should exchange contact information, talk on the phone, meet in person, or go to the next step of the relationship. Take your time and move at the speed you desire. Let your new relationship gain your trust.
Stop communicating to someone who pressures you for personal information or attempts to trick you into revealing it.
Cupidonia.com will never release any of your personal information. Remember, stop communicating with anyone who is pressuring you to release your personal information.
All correspondence between members on Cupidonia.com takes place through our secure server, ensuring your identity is protected.
Right from the start, be completely honest about who you are and what you want.
Don't mislead other members and give false impressions. They will eventually find out. It will make things difficult if you hide important information about yourself.
Start by communicating only on Cupidonia.com using messages or chat. Look for odd behavior or inconsistencies.
Watch out for someone who seems too good to be true. The person on the other end may not be who they say they really are.
Donít become prematurely intimate with someone, even if it's only online. If you mutually decide to get intimate, be smart and protect yourself. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention provide some of the most current information available about sexually transmitted diseases and preserving your health.
If anyone makes you uncomfortable, you can put them in your 'Ignored' member list and they won't be able to send you messages anymore.
If anyone violates our Terms & Conditions, please contact us at abuse@Cupidonia.com and we will look in to it. We hold the right to terminate any membership, at anytime, at our discretion.
Exercise caution, common sense and trust your judgement
There are imposters and liars everywhere so online dating is no exception. A little caution is always a good option when you meet a new person.
If you feel unsure about something, don't do it! Don't get intimidated into doing something you donít want to.
If you are careful and take the time to evaluate every aspect the other person, you will get better results.
Take all the time you need to verify how trustworthy a person really is. If you suspect the persone is lying, he/she probably is. People must earn your trust.Be responsible about your relationship, and donít fall in love with just a photo!
Remember, your safety is what counts, and there will always be other somebody else.
You know yourself better than anybody. So listen to yourself!
Request a photo
A photo will give you an idea of the person's appearance, it may give you additional insights about a person. Ideally, it's better to view photos of someone in various settings: face, full body, casual, formal, outdoors. This is why Cupidonia.com allows more than 1 picture to be uploaded.
If you get excuses about why you can't see a photo, consider that the person may have something to hide.
For no charge, Cupidonia.com will scan photos sent to us. There is is no reason for not having a picture posted online.
We have known members who fell in love online, they had everything in common... Except they did not like their mutual appearance. This is too bad but it happens.
Talk on the telephone (or webcam) before meeting in person
A phone call is a safe and easy way of getting to know a person. It can reveal a lot about a person's communication and social skills.
Consider your safety and do not reveal your personal phone number to a stranger. Use a pay phone, a local telephone blocking technique (ask the local operator to help you place an anonymous call) to prevent your phone number from appearing on Caller ID.
Only furnish your phone number when you feel completely comfortable. We highly recommend no phone number exchange until you have had at least one or two meetings with that person.
Only meet when you decide you are ready
The advantage of online dating is that you can get to know a person gradually without any obligation to pursue the relationship in the real world.
You are never forced to meet anyone, regardless of your level of online intimacy. And even if you decide to schedule a date, you can always change your mind.
Maybe you've kept the relationship at an anonymous level on purpose because something does not feel right. Trust yourself.
Warning signs of problems to come
Be concerned if your date exhibits any of the following behavior without acceptable explanation:
Fails to provide direct answers to direct questions.
Provides inconsistent information about age, marital status, appearance, work, etc.
Makes demeaning or disrespectful comments towards you or others.
Heavy drinking or drugs.
Acts in a passive-aggressive way. Displays of anger, hostility, intense frustration, jealousy, aggressive behavior, physically inappropriate behavior.
Attempts to pressure or control you.
Refuses to speak to you on the phone after you have exchanged several times online.
Appears significantly different in person than online.
Never introduces you to friends, work relations or family members.
If you feel uncomfortable in any way, immediately remove yourself from that situation. Leave immediately. If you are in a public place, ask one of the staff to escort you outside. If you feel like you are in danger, contact the police immediately.
When you choose to meet a person in real life
Before you meet a member in the real world, let a family member or a friend know where you are going and at what time you are going to be home. If you can, make arrangements to contact a friend before, during, and after the meeting so they know right away if there is any problems.
Leave the full name and phone number of your date with a family member or a friend.
Choose a public place with many people around. A coffee shop, restaurant, shopping mall or a bookstore. Choose a time when a lot of people will be present. Avoid meeting at a private home until the time is appropriate.
Go there and back home by yourself or ask a friend or family member. That way your home address stays unknown. Bring enough money to get you back home. Keep the number of a taxi on yourself.
Bring a cell phone if you have one or bring some change to make call if needed.
Do not drink anything that has been out of your sight.
During the date, if you decide to move to another location, take your own means of transportation.
Take extra caution outside your area
If your date is from another town, meet somewhere in the middle so neither of you are in the other's hometown.
If you are away flying in from another city, arrange for your own car and hotel room. Rent a car at the airport and drive directly to your hotel.
Do not disclose the name of your hotel and never allow your date to make the arrangements for you.
Call your date from the hotel or meet at the location you have already agreed to. If the location seems inappropriate or unsafe, go back to your hotel. Try to contact your date at that location or leave a message.
Always make sure a friend or family member knows your plan and has your contact information. If possible, carry a cell phone with you.
If you don't feel right about someone, get some distance
Never do anything you feel unsure about. If you are in any way afraid of your date, get out of there! Ask a staff or someone else on the scene for help, go call a friend for advice, slip out the back door and drive away.
If you feel you are in danger, call the police; better be safe than sorry. Never worry or feel embarrassed about your behavior; your safety is much more important than what anybody thinks of you.
Your safety and well being is very important to us at Cupidonia.com.
Hopefully we did not scare you too much. If you just use your common sense along with some of the tips we provided you, everything should go well.
We think that Cupidonia.com is a great place to find a lasting relationship.
We hope you will one day experience the ultimate relationship! With or without our help...